Saturday, 29 February 2020

It's okay to not be okay

In a world obsessed with social media and our presence online, it is very easy to be caught up in the mentality that we must pretend to be okay at all times, and that showing any vulnerability is to be seen as a weakness. With recent tragedies, there is an outpouring of love and support, and people everywhere sharing and offering their support and help to anyone who needs it, but why do we find it so hard to accept this?

When things get tough, people tend to become introverted, and to try and deal with the pressures and worries by themselves, but why? The people around you in everything you do, and to help in any way possible, but the hardest thing is to accept hat you need that help. 

Anyone who knows me will be reading this thinking that I am a hypocrite, because I absolutely shut everyone out when I find things tough, but gradually I am learning that I have built a circle of people around me who want nothing but the best for me, and just as I would drop anything to be by their side, they would do the same for me. 

At times, the most important thing to do is to take a step back, and consider the cause and contributing factors to what is happening. Where possible, you must remove yourself from these situations. Whether this be social media, social situations, even friendships. Think about the people who are there for you in your time of need, they are the people that you should surround yourself with. Why are we so willing to accept and put up with people in our lives who don't care enough for us? Why are we putting ourselves through this? All this does is prolong the inevitable, the breakdown of a friendship or relationship.

In the last 4/5 years, I have cut so many people out. Friends, family, the people I thought would be by my side forever. It certainly wasn't easy, and even now there are times when I question these choices, but I am constantly reminded that these are the people who made me feel inferior when I was at my lowest, when they should have been my biggest support.

My circle now? I have the best support system I could hope for. They are there to celebrate my wins and pick me up when I need it, they are the people who repeatedly remind me that it is okay to not be okay! 

So the next time you are down, you need advice, you just need to talk? Reach out to someone, anyone. Vulnerability and needing support is not a weakness. The hard things in life are put there to test us, they make us resilient, tenacious, and more determined than ever to continue working to be the people we aspire to be. The people who are strong, the people who embrace their differences, and tackle the difficulties face on.

Sunday, 9 February 2020

The Stranger

I had a few weeks where I was without the motivation to read, and then Tom steered me into the book aisle of Tesco and brought me The Stranger and said that I had to start reading it straight away so that I could watch it on Netflix!

I devoured this book this weekend, and I cannot wait to get started on the show!

I was instantly hooked with this novel, the opening grip works well, and the shifting of focus throughout keeps you engaged and wanting more. The ending for me was a little rushed, but I find this with most thriller novels, and I also don't know what else they could have added so I guess it works!

The character development was wonderful for some, and lacking for others. I would have liked some more information on The Strangers themselves, and the reasons behind their decision to get involved etc., but loved the exploration of Adam, and the multiple other minor characters who are all intricately entwined within the plot. This all leads for the shock at the very end, as you are constantly trying to predict what has happened!

Book 3 of 2020 was a huge success and I am definitely back into my reading routine!

What are you currently reading?


Wednesday, 5 February 2020

Having a Blair Waldorf Moment

Recently I've been trying to mix up my work outfits. I am incredibly guilty of chucking on black trousers and a cosy jumper every single day, and I am bored of it!

However, since I have been purchasing a few new pieces to add into my work wardrobe, I've found that I'm adding a lot more monochrome. This isn't a bad thing in any way, I like my wardrobe to be classic and include pieces that I will wear year in year out, with the odd statement piece. Due to this, I have had my eye on some headbands from Accessorize for a few months.

I originally told myself not to be ridiculous, and that spending £16 on a headband was not a sensible choice when I hate spending money on clothes/accessories. Then a guardian angel appeared and put a 70% off sale sign in the shop window. I picked up the three headbands below for just £3 each - a fraction of the price, and even Primark wouldn't have them for less! 

The quality of them is amazing, they are comfortable on the head, and I can't wait to style them this week to brighten up an outfit and add a bit of glam!

Who doesn't want to channel their inner Blair Waldorf?

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